The author further talks about a good read if you want to delve into the details of modern day romance and yes, there is humour now and then. His investigations into the cities of Paris, Tokyo and Beunos Aires are very interesting and culturally very different. It is difficult for the young to now to stick to one person when they know there might be someone better just around the corner. The people he interviewed showed this anxiety. However, the more the choices, the more difficult to choose. It is easier to communicate and meet people from different parts of the world. We now have a ‘phone world’ where everyone has their own space and privacy. This is not the case with the majority of the women now (this part of his investigation is only in the US).Īs he goes beyond the gender, we come across major differences between the love then and love now. Some even married early just to gain the freedom they wanted. They wished they had traveled, pursued education and lived some years single instead of getting married early. This has been one of the ‘regrets’ of the older generation women.

The women now have a different options to choose over marriage which didn’t exist before. The most striking part of this research is the empowerment of women – how it has affected the relationships. The book begins with how love has changed from the older generations to the present ones. He also consulted a handful of scholars and websites like and OkCupid gave access to their surveys. He teamed up with a socialogist Eric Klinenberg to complete the research. The investigation involved numerous interviews with people – young and old, a massive reddit survey to understand how people communicate in today’s world and also visits to different cities of the world.

His search for an in-depth, comprehesive investigation on romance speically in the modern times resulted in nothing and he decided to conduct one himself. In the introduction the author mentions his own confusion about romance and getting it right in a relationship. Do they really go together, romance being very subjective. The name of the book really caught my eye.

Modern romance an investigation